The Perfect Relationship: A Foreign Country

5 Reasons why foreign countries make the best significant others

“Every trip to foreign country can be a love affair, where you’re left puzzling over who you are and who you’ve fallen in love with…All good trips are, like love, about being carried out of yourself and deposited in the midst of terror and wonder.” -Pico Iyer, Why We Travel.

1. You’ll never get your heart broken.

Fall in love over a period of hours or years, and miraculously, a foreign country can never break your heart. This relationship spans the whole human spectrum, so it not only captures your heart but infiltrates and resides in the mind and the eyes, providing you with a fresh outlook and new perspective.

This new thang moves at a puma’s pace with an enlightening, quick connection. Skip the awkward phase of getting to know each other, and cut to the chase; from the moment you step off the plane (or bus or train), you’re are recklessly thrown into this relationship. Pour your heart out in this newfound state of freedom and release; new places have a way of healing old wounds. And most importantly, have trust that everything will work out for the best because…. it always does.

2. They exceed your expectations.

Rest assured that a foreign country would never, ever punish you with a dull moment; they will whole-heartedly provide you with the adventures and stimulation you need and crave. They will never instill in you a sense of stagnancy, better yet; they coddle you with constant feelings of awareness and eagerness.

Their gaze, feelings, and breath are intangible, but you’ll have moments; truth pulses through the being of foreign countries. Their buoyant energy sears up through your feet and seeps down into your fingertips; their electric current will open your eyes up to wondrous scenes, and because foreign countries detonate all previous expectations, their devastating honesty will always bring you to the point of re-evaluating your life.

3. They don’t get attached.

You can get around, without the stigma. Foreign places are emotionally unavailable; they possess no hint of jealousy. In fact, they will more than likely provide you with the knowledge you need before moving on to the next country. Although this relationship permeates the senses and mindset, undulating freedom lies in the ever-fresh air, and your whereabouts and choices.

So often times, human relationships are based on the exclusive ‘me and you’ factor. However, foreign countries embody unselfish, inclusive connections; we must become aware and present to all energy around us. They have taught me the art of cultivating connection though all things, at all times.

Bonus: after it’s all said and done, there’s no questions asked. Don’t worry how long its going to last, just enjoy your time. Become empowered from knowing that a foreign country will never thoughtlessly hold you down. They rebirth souls as birds; the wind of new places lifts us off the ground and carries us in a spree to distant lands boasting of new sights and adventures.

4. They inspire you.

Countries don’t speak of people or things… they speak of big ideas. The undulating adrenaline buzz received only from foreign countries never bores me but beacons my brain to listen more closely, to pump itself chock-full of culture and history. A wealth of knowledge and tools amidst a makeshift, temporary home, they encourage you to try bold, new things.

They make you see, not just look.

Lets take the take ceiling of the Sistine Chapel, for example. Not only is this a ceiling, but a heaven of fanatical exploration of mysticism, holiness, and devotion. The ceiling is curved, there was no need to question it; it was just a fact. The grass is green, right?  I went on to admire other details.  I vaguely heard the tour guide mention, “The ceiling was painted masterfully to look curved.” My brain automatically discarded this preposterous suggestion, as there was no possibility the ceiling was actually flat. Despite my strong instinct to believe otherwise, the ceiling is pretty much flat. Just the thought broke me.

Everything I believed in at that moment was fighting back with all it had. I felt a quick, strange, passing sensation that compelled me to believe everything I had ever learned was wrong. The though of the world not being round clawed at the inside my head.  Internal arguments put my brain into a flurry of frustration and awe. My brain reprimanded my instincts. I felt uplifted, smacked sweetly by a higher power. Now, I don’t just look and accept.

I look, and make sure I am seeing.

I am now inspired to think that not everything is comprehendible at first glance, and nothing is set in stone. Sometimes you just have to stand there dumbfounded, and let the impossible take you on a whim of certainty.

Foreign countries will never mock you for coming to terms with the unfeasible; instead, they foster endless inspiration. They will do everything in their power to defy your reality.

5. They will bring out the best in you.

(Most of the time) Situations in foreign countries can ignite unparalleled frustration, but in the end, they will always bring out your highest and best self.

Foreign countries help you to help yourself learn life lessons by subtly molding you with their tender, gracious grasp. Heart, eyes, and mind open, your steps back in the daily life effortlessly become more mindful and you tolerance of unpredictable or unpleasant happenings will skyrocket. Higher-level thinking manifests itself naturally as you begin to try to see things through more than one perspective; obviously things will never go back to the way they were.

The adventures in foreign countries provide you with a fistful of memories which you will clutch ferociously in you hands for a lifetime. Not the kind that make u cringe, either… the kind that leave a warmth on your heart and a smile on your face.

Like every good relationship, this foreign country will always have a place in your heart, but you’ll be moving onto grander things. Take all the time apart you need, and when you’re ready to come back, it’s always there for you with open arms borders.

Date Jamaica, not Jamal. Dare to give your heart to places, not people.

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  1. Lisa O'Connell | 15th Feb 12

    Wonderful reading. I shared your post with my sister who also likes to travel. She was a traveling nurse for three years and I’m sure she can relate to your point of view. Here’s to staying safe and enjoying what the world has to offer.

    • Words of a Wanderer | 15th Feb 12

      Thank you for reading, Aunt Lisa, glad you enjoyed it! 🙂 And thanks for passing the stories along, I appreciate it! Blessings!

  2. Deanna O'Connell | 15th Feb 12

    So well-put, Casey! I love the experience of being dumbfounded!!

  3. The World Wanderer | 20th May 12

    Well put, and quite true! When a relationship I was in ended about 3 years ago, I set out traveling and haven’t stopped. Now I’ve met someone new, who also is as in love with traveling as I am, and so we adventure together, but I will never stop falling in love with countries and new places/people.

    I love the Pico Iyer quote, and your post reminded me a lot of my favorite Elizabeth Gilbert quote, “Traveling is the great true love of my life.”

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